Boundaries and Assertiveness Work

The Refuge draws on body-oriented techniques to help clients explore the concept of boundaries in their own lives. By learning to track sensations and activation in the nervous system, a warning system each of us is endowed with from birth, the focus is on exploring safety, areas where one’s personal boundary has been ruptured, as well as on mobilizing the energy required to set or restore healthy boundaries. This often involves titration and moving from fear and constriction into greater confidence to speak up and act on your own behalf.

Assertiveness is a related concept and requires the ability to be able to identify and validate your own needs, emotions and body sensations as well as express these to others, in order to reclaim your sense of personal empowerment.

The Refuge draws on the boundary work developed as part of the Somatic Experiencing™ model and through various authors in the area of attachment and codependency, including Dr. David Richo, Pia Mellody and Melody Beattie. The Refuge is also inspired by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg’s Non-Violent Communication model.


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